I like to think of this as an indictment of life more so than a reflection of a person or their intentions.
Life has a way of taking people to different destinations. Different thrills, emotions, values, pains, highs, and lows. A lot of the times, we don’t really have a say in what that destination is or the means by which we arrive there.
All I know is life brings about change. Whether it’s within yourself or the environment around you. That’s the one guarantee in this life. All I hope is that the changes are for the better.
The popular saying is “When you’re down, you really see who your true friends are.”
Alhamdulillah and knock on wood, I’ve never been down enough to test this theory.
But I’ve actually found the opposite to be true. I’ve found that the biggest / happiest moments of my life were true litmus tests to distinguish between people who cared about me and people who just knew me. And during the happiest moments of my life, I could always feel that difference. There’s just something about genuine happiness that shines brighter than any other human emotion. It inspires and humbles me. So when people show it, it’s such a beautiful thing for me to witness. Those people differentiate themselves immediately, because in a moment of personal happiness you feel even more joy from their presence.
But I think having that true connection with someone is rare yet special. Maybe that’s the way God wills it to be, so I can truly appreciate their presence in my life.
I’ve found that people have an easier time sympathizing with another person’s hardship than they do truly relishing in and embracing another person’s joy.